Thankful Thursday: Loneliness

Giving thanks to Spirit, Source, God, and yourself, is a necessary tool in your spiritual journey and promotes better mental health.

By taking a gratitude moment to evaluate your life and find reasons to be grateful, you reduce the likelihood of becoming a self serving, narcissistic, unappreciative, thoughtless, insufferable, self righteous, cunt.

I don’t think anybody really wants to become a cunt, right? If you do, that’s your business, but we don’t celebrate those behaviors over here.

Let’s get into it!

This week’s Thankful Thursday is dedicated to: Loneliness

Most of us got a pretty healthy dose of loneliness during the countrywide lock down. Some of us were productive and thrived, and some of us, not so much. While the rest of the world is getting busy getting back into the swing of things, I have chosen to extend my siesta of solitude. The reasons for this are many:

  • I like the peace and quiet.
  • I don’t have to share my space
  • I am free to create as much as I like, whenever I like.
  • I have learned, and am learning, a lot about myself, my dog, and my plants.
  • I am able to focus more on my projects.
  • I am better able to show empathy to other people.
  • I have become more open to trying new things.
  • There are less distractions keeping me from my goals.
  • I have become my number one priority.

Etc. etc.

Photo by Orione Conceiu00e7u00e3o on

Loneliness was not a journey I sat down and consciously decided to embark on. I was forced into it as the biproduct of ending a situationship. I had no way of knowing the blessings and benefits that I would receive by allowing that situation to dissolve. It was hard as fuck in the beginning being that I am a “relationship person” but with time and practice I have come to love the circumstance so much that I consciously opt to remain in this space.

As with any experience though, for as many highs, there are some definite lows to loneliness. At first I was fitful, depressed, and felt isolated. It took some very concentrated effort to bring myself into the light and start looking at the solitude for the blessing it turned out to be.

During my inner clarity ordained isolation, I have been able to identify patterns and behaviors in myself that I would have otherwise missed. The distractions of everyday life, social media, and routine interactions can keep you stuck on a wheel of repeating behaviors if you don’t force yourself to sit down, shut up, think, and feel. Loneliness has given me that opportunity and so many more.

By spending time alone, I notice myself becoming more insightful, more compassionate, tolerant, patient, and accepting. A lot of the things that used to bother me about people and situations don’t affect me in the same way anymore. By giving myself space to self analyze, I have been able to dissect the cause of my emotional flare ups and retrain my brain to receive them differently so that I can respond differently to those triggers. Seeing the benefits and the changes within myself have encouraged me to continue.

Now. Like I said. It isn’t all rainbows, positivity, growth, and light over here lol. There are some days, like today, where all I want is to curl up under someone for a good cuddle. This piece almost didn’t make it into creation because after a long hard work shift, I was feeling low energy and craving human interaction. But! Like I said, the practice of loneliness has been teaching me ways to cope during times like this. The key is to stay busy. So… For as badly as I wanted to abandon today’s blog and go sulk in bed with ice cream and Instagram, I stuck to my guns, put my ass in my chair, and got to typing.

Now, did this cure my craving? No. Of course not. But, it did slow the racing thoughts and temptation to engage in destructive behavior, like reaching out to toxic people just because I’m bored. That’s some shit I know I’d regret before the sun rises tomorrow morning.

Even with the lows of loneliness, it has still been a very rewarding and worthwhile experience for me. Do I miss some of the creature comforts of having people around? Absolutely! But, not enough to compromise on the growth I have been experiencing.

I am grateful for my self imposed extended stay in loneliness. I am grateful for the lessons I am learning, the strength I am developing, and the clarity the experience is bringing me about myself, and the way I interact with the world.

I am grateful for loneliness. It has truly changed my life!

2 thoughts on “Thankful Thursday: Loneliness

  1. clairvoyantshopoholic says:

    “But, not enough to compromise on the growth I have been experiencing.” I have been experiencing this as well as I have prioritized my life lately. The adage “It’s lonely at the top.” has revealed itself to hold far more truth than I ever gave it credit for.


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